The Justice of God

Today, I am grateful for the justice of God. This verse reminds me that – even when things appear out of control and unjust to me – God is still working things out all over the world, all at the same time. This boggles my mind!

God promises in the Bible that He will repay all injustice. As it says in Romans 12:19 (HCSB),

Friends, do not avenge yourselves; instead, leave room for His wrath. For it is written: Vengeance belongs to Me; I will repay, says the Lord.

So even when really bad things happen to us (or to people we care about), we can trust God to be the Architect of all justice – either in this lifetime or in the next. He sees the wrongs done to His children and is grieved and angered by it; however, the timing of when He chooses to mete out His justice is something that only He knows.

Goodness knows that I’ve been through a situation (and am coming out of one now) where I have been greatly wronged, by several different people. I’ve had to forgive them all, but the pain and consequences of the betrayal are still close to the surface. I’ve learned that there are certain steps that the Lord will take to accomplish His justice (His timeline is usually a lot longer than I’d like it to be, though!) but that there is a role He has me to play, too.

I’ve learned that it’s perfectly alright (and even biblical) for me to protect myself from those who are perpetuating wickedness against me. However, there is a difference between protecting myself and proactively attacking those who seek to harm me.

So I’ve take measures to protect myself, but refuse to attack anyone. My prayer has been that God will allows these individuals to reap the consequences of the choices that they have made. Even so, in the midst of all of this hardship, it is clear to me that these people do not have a meaningful relationship with the Lord (or even claim to have a relationship with Him at all) – otherwise, their behavior would be different. This makes me sad, as their actions indicate that they are profoundly lost.

Seeking and finding the lost is God’s specialty, though. I’m grateful that He has a heart for these people; I’ll be curious to see how He both metes out His justice to them, and also woos them to Himself at the same time.

But I digress. The point of this verse to me that is that God is always working out His just purposes all throughout His creation, all the time. There is never a point in time where He is not exercising His justice.

Last month, I remember feeling very upset when I got what I considered to be a ridiculous parking ticket. I parked in a quaint downtown area, and there was free street parking along the curb for two hours. I parked my car, and then went to my appointment.

Anyway, imagine my surprise when – after my appointment – I returned to find a ticket on my windshield. I was incredulous – what offense had I committed? Even a few passersby stopped to marvel at parking ticket I had received.

You see, the ticket was for failing to parking within the lines – you know those brackets that give you some guidance on where your car should be parked? Understand that I wasn’t parked at a rakish angle, or even too close to the vehicle next to me – it’s just that my vehicle was about six inches over one of the lines. The clincher was that the police officer had snapped a photo of the alleged infraction.

I was livid and prepared to appeal. I reasoned, “There was no sign saying that I had to park within the lines.”

I asked a friend of mine – a retired police officer – for his thoughts. His response? “Pay the ticket.” Apparently, my ignorance of this law failed to excuse me from the consequences it. After all, I had parked outside of the line. I had violated the law.

What do you think happened next? I paid the fine.

And so it is with God. Everyone who transgresses His law will pay the fine one way or the other; the miracle is that, as Christians, Jesus has already decreed, “The fine has been paid for you already!” I’m not immune from the consequences of my choices, however (in my case, being short about $45 USD).

I am grateful that we serve a God of justice. He is merciful and gracious to His children – not giving us what we do deserve, and compassionately sparing us from what we actually do deserve. Even more than this, He promises to correct and restore everything that is wrong and broken in the world in the end! The book of Revelation attests to this. He is a God of justice, indeed.

Here is my prayer for today: Dear Lord, thank You for Your justice. I know that I don’t have to worry about seeking revenge when I have been wronged; however, it is sometimes appropriate for me to prayerfully take measures to protect myself from those seeking to harm me, when the situation calls for it. Help me to remember the difference between self-protection and attack; the former is fine, but the latter usually crosses a line into the area of vengeance. By Your own Word, You have claimed that vengeance belongs to You and You alone, so I apologize for the times when I’ve attempted to take matters into my own hands, in a feeble attempt to seek justice. True justice only comes from You because it is an intrinsic part of Your character; You (and Your promises) are 100% reliable and 100% trustworthy, all the time. In Your name I pray, Amen.

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  1. Here is a few articles that might help you dealing with narcissists 15 Effective Ways Clever People Handle Toxic People

    Dealing with toxic people is something we all have to confront in our lives at one point or another. Narcissists, compulsive liars, sociopaths, manipulators, gossipers, and those wallowing in self-pity are just a few examples of toxic people. Toxic people always find a way of worming their way into people’s lives, and creating drama and anarchy in order to manipulate a social circle to suit their needs. Often they will apply a ‘divide and conquer’ strategy, in which they sow the seeds of instability, in order to make themselves seem essential to a social group. The actions of toxic people usually stems from an innate insecurity that compels them to drag people around them into their vacuous hole of insecurity and instability; not only can toxic people ruin your life and hinder your progress, but they can put you at risk of dragging you down to their level and turning you into a toxic person as well. Luckily, there are a number of ways to avoid letting toxic people rule your life, employed by clever people who have usually dealt with toxic people in the past.
    1. They ignore attention seekers
    Often toxic people compulsively seek attention at all costs. Even if it’s somebody’s birthday, toxic people will always find a way of making everything about them. It usually begins with small actions, interrupting people or talking over them, being unnecessarily loud or obnoxious, or acting out. Usually, if they do not get the attention they crave, their actions become more drastic,starting arguments, throwing a tantrum or acting destructively. Good social cohesion relies on everybody getting their chance to talk, joke and have fun. A social circle should never revolve around one person. If this is the case, the best course of action is to pay little or no attention to that person, and instead spend more time with the quieter and more reserved members of the group.
    2. They do not trust or share secrets with gossipers
    Toxic people will share deep secrets with people just to seem momentarily interesting and they will frequently judge or gossip about people behind their backs. If you meet somebody who does this, do not be fooled into thinking that they are gossiping with you because they like you or trust you. They will just as easily betray your trust. Toxic people will often talk behind somebody’s back to you in the hopes that they will agree with them. They will then go and tell the other person what you said. This creates friction between two people, leaving the toxic person in the middle holding all the cards. It’s a divisive and manipulative method of gaining friends or power in a social group. Do not take the bait.
    3. They spend a lot of time with trustworthy and loyal friends
    In contrast to the point made previously, clever people will develop a strong support network of loyal and trustworthy people. They know that they do not have to be everybody’s friend, and not everybody is deserving of their friendship. In turn, they reward their friends loyalty and trust by showing that it works both ways. Clever people know that true friendship and fidelity is one of the rarest and most valuable commodities you will ever have in life, and they will not allow this to be corrupted by toxic, negative and untrustworthy people.
    4. They avoid manipulative people
    Manipulative people will ruin your life. They will callously manipulate your feelings in order to make you act in a certain way to further their goals. Compulsively manipulative people often have few redeemable qualities, so it is worth avoiding them altogether. In order to avoid them however, you must first recognize the signs of a manipulative person. Do you find yourself constantly feeling strong or unstable emotions when they are around; anger, irritation, sadness, or inadequacy? Do you often question why they might have said something? Do you get the suspicion that you’re being deceived? If so, it is likely that the person is trying to toy with your emotions, and are best avoided.
    5. They allow liars to trip themselves up
    Toxic people will often lie compulsively, not just to others, but to themselves. They will often perform mental gymnastics to convince themselves that their lies are reality. Unfortunately, lies are actually very hard to keep up. Recounting a true event is relatively easy, but keeping track of a bunch of made up stories is difficult. Liars end up exposing themselves over time, by contradicting themselves with other lies.
    6. They do not get involved in petty feuds and drama
    Most people like to keep arguments solely in the realms of themselves, and whoever they are arguing with. Toxic people aren’t like that, they love to air their dirty laundry in public, and when an argument breaks out, they want everybody to pick a side. It doesn’t matter if you’re involved or not, it barely matters if you even know the two people involved, a toxic person will not allow you to remain neutral. Often fights between one or more toxic people can be cataclysmic, and it’s the innocent bystanders caught in the cross fire that will suffer the most. There are six words that will save you from being sucked into the storm in a teacup that comes when toxic people argue; “It’s nothing to do with me”.
    7. They stand up to bullies
    This is perhaps the most important way of handling a toxic person. Standing up to bullying wherever you see it. Most decent people will help the helpless, defend the vulnerable and assist those who need it. Toxic people prey on anybody they consider to be weak. It could be somebody whose a little shy, socially awkward, or even somebody who lacks physical prowess. Toxic people will bully and take advantage of anybody who they think won’t stand up to them, which is why it’s so important to stand up to toxic people, not just for yourself, but for others around you.

    8. They ignore insults
    Insults come in many forms, but the most cleverly-disguised insults are actually disguised as compliments. “I’d never have the confidence to wear that.” “You’re so funny, and you don’t even realize it!” “You’re such a nice person.” These are just a few thinly veiled insults that will leave you wondering what they actually meant, which in turn leaves you seeking approval, and ultimately
    9. They do not indulge self-pitying people
    Toxic people will often put on a mask of helplessness in order to trick and manipulate people, or emancipate themselves from responsibility. You’ll often hear a toxic person saying that they can’t pay you back because they can’t find a job, and they can’t find a job because they haven’t got any qualifications, and they haven’t got any qualifications because their teachers mistreated them at school, etc. There is always a reason for their failure which is out of their hands, and it is always up to you to sort it out. And if you don’t, well, then you’re just the same as everybody else whose mistreated them throughout the terrible ordeal that is their life.
    Some level of self-pity is totally healthy, after a nasty breakup, a death in the family or something similar, but there is always a point where you have to grow up and accept responsibility for your own destiny, because it’s nobody else’s job but yours. Self-pitying people live in a vacuous maelstrom of misery, and make absolutely no effort to effect any change in their lives. Avoiding self-pitying people and refusing to justify their apathy is not only good for them, but will stop you from being sucked into their depressing world of self-perpetuating failure.
    10. They demand straight answers to their questions
    Toxic people will often go out of their way to give arbitrary, vague, non-committal or misleading answers to questions. Just ask anybody whose ever been involved in the criminal justice system. The lengths a toxic person will go to avoid giving a satisfactory answer are incredible. This is done not just to withhold information, but also to prevent anybody from telling them they’ve backtracked later. The trick to getting around this is to present them with only closed questions, that is, a question with a yes or no answer. This will force them to make their intentions clear, and prevent them from playing mind games with you or others.
    11. They do not indulge narcissists
    Narcissists love themselves. Or perhaps more accurately, they love the idea of themselves. They are often so deluded in their own favor that they genuinely lose touch with reality. Narcissists will often fish for compliments, often by pretending that they do not feel so highly about themselves. They will often take numerous pictures of themselves and constantly seek comment on them. The best way to deal with a narcissist is to simply ignore their insatiable appetite for gratification. You do not have to criticize them or try to make them feel bad, but by simply ignoring them, you will help to remind them that we are all human, and our lives are all equally meaningful.
    12. They will tell them when they are at fault
    Toxic people will do almost anything to absolve themselves from blame. Even if they are clearly at fault, they will justify their actions by bringing up something somebody else has done. Handling toxic people cleverly means telling them they are at fault, and refusing to accept their excuses. This can be difficult to do when they are being evasive, but ultimately it will help them to grow.
    13. They are not won over by false kindness
    There is an old African saying “Beware of a naked man who offers you a shirt.”
    Effectively, it means that you cannot accept something from somebody who is in no position to give it. Namely, compliments and gestures of love. Toxic people will often try to win over certain people by showering them with compliments. This is often done because they want something from you, or you present some kind of a threat to them. You may notice that they are not nearly so complimentary of others around them, perhaps they are rude to customer service staff or abrasive towards strangers. Do not be fooled into believing that this person genuinely likes you, or that they are actually a nice person. They are just trying to get something from you.
    14. They are in control of their own emotions
    Toxic people will try to manipulate people’s emotions to engineer a social group to suit their needs. In order to avoid this, clever people make sure that they are aware of the emotions they are feeling, and the root causes of why they are feeling them, in order to ensure that they are the only person in control of them. This is easier said than done. Controlling one’s emotions takes years of mental discipline, so for the majority of us, it is better to avoid situations that may cause us to act irrationally, or feel emotionally unstable. For example, an argument or discussion which flares your emotions may be best carried out through written -rather than spoken- word. This gives you a chance to properly process what is being said, and provide a coherent and controlled reply, rather than an emotional outburst.
    15. They focus on solutions, not problems
    Toxic people are often the first to place blame when something goes wrong. They do this to emancipate themselves from having to make any effort to right the wrong. It’s very easy to hate stuff and to blame people, but it’s much harder to make it change. Clever people will circumvent the power of a toxic person by looking for a solution to a problem, rather than just focusing on the guilty party. They will help to put something right, whether they had any part in it or not. This shows that they are compassionate, protective and loyal, and on a long enough timescale, this will always beat toxic people. Blaming somebody for a problem shows that you are afraid of confronting it; helping to resolve a problem shows real leadership.
    How to Deal With Stubborn People
    It’s no fun to try to convince a stubborn person to do what you want. Dealing with stubborn people can be very frustrating and exhausting, whether you’re talking to a co-worker or your own mother. But if you understand that stubborn people are just afraid of bruising their egos and doing something new, you can make them feel more comfortable — and convince them to see your side of the story. So how do you deal with a stubborn person without ripping your hair out in the process? Just follow along.

    Start with a bit of flattery. One of the reasons that stubborn people are the way they are is because they hate to be wrong. They think that they know the best way to do everything, and therefore, they may be a bit sensitive when they are told that there are other ways to do things; they may view a difference in opinion as a personal attack even if you mean no harm. So, when you talk to stubborn people, try to make them feel good about themselves by offering them a bit of flattery first. Just make sure it’s sincere and that it doesn’t sound like you’re just sucking up to get your way. Here are some ways you can start off:
    “I know you’ve been working so hard lately. I’m so impressed by how you’re able to keep your act together during such a stressful time.”
    “You always have such great ideas and I thought I’d throw one out for you.”
    “I’m so glad I got to see you today. I’ve missed hanging out with you.”

    Show that you value their opinions. Another thing you have to do to deal with stubborn people is to acknowledge their positions and show them that they really have a great idea. Don’t make them think that their idea is completely stupid, invalid, or poorly thought-out (even if you feel that way), or their chances of listening to you will be approaching 0%. Make sure to repeat their argument and show that you do see the good in what the person is saying; that way, the person will see that you do value him or her as well as his or her ideas. This will make the person much more open to listening to you. Here are some things that you can say:
    “I think going to get Italian is a great idea. I love the gnocchi at the Italian place, and they have such a great wine selection. However…”
    “I know we didn’t have the greatest time hanging out with Sarah and Mike last time, and you’re right about them being a little bit weird. But I really think we should give them another chance.”
    “Moving to San Francisco from Oakland would have a lot of benefits, just like you said. There would be more to do, we’d be living closer to the airport and we do travel a ton, and we’d be moving closer to our best friends. But having said that…”

    Don’t tell them that they’re wrong. The last thing that a stubborn person wants to hear is that he or she is flat-out wrong. Don’t ever say, “You’re not looking at this correctly,” or “You just don’t get it, do you?” And definitely don’t say, “How could you be so wrong?” This will alienate the person and make him or her shut down completely. Make it clear that he or she has some great ideas and that you have considered them carefully. They may be right for another time or situation, but right now, you’d like to do what you want to do. Make that very clear.
    Say things like, “We both have such great ideas” or “There are a lot of ways to look at this situation” to show that you think the person is “equally” right.

    Show how the decision will benefit them. Stubborn people are often stubborn because they are very invested in themselves and how their decisions can help them feel even better and do what they want to do. So, if you want to stroke their egos a bit and make them think the decision is valid, you have to show how it can end up benefiting them, even if it may seem a little surprising. This will pique their interest and will make them much more likely to give in. Here are some things that you can say:
    “I’d really love to check out the new sushi place down the street. Remember you said you were having a craving for fried ice cream? I heard they have an amazing a variety at that restaurant.”
    “Hanging out with Sarah and Mike should be fun, and what’s more, I heard Mike has an extra ticket to the 49ers game and is looking for someone to go with him. I know you’ve been dying to go.”
    “If we stay in Oakland instead of moving to San Francisco, we’ll be able to save on rent. We can use that extra money to go to Costa Rica this summer, just like you wanted to do.”

    Make them think they’ve come up with the idea on their own. This is another trick to convincing the stubborn person to do what you want. Make the person think that, in the course of your conversation, he or she had actually come up with the idea, or had introduced an important aspect of why the idea is such a good one. This will make the person feel proud of himself, and like he’s still getting his own way. This can be a little tricky to pull off, but if you can do it right, you’ll be amazed by how much better this will make the stubborn person feel. Here are some things you can say:
    “That’s a great idea! I forgot about how much I love plum wine. The sushi place will definitely have that.”
    “You’re right — we can meet up with Sarah and Mike this weekend. And you think Saturday night is the best time to do it, don’t you?”
    “That’s so true — I would miss our little farmer’s market way too much if we left Oakland.”

    Persuading Them

    Be firm. The reason that stubborn people often get their way is because the people around them often cave in and let them get exactly what they want. This can be for a number of reasons: you may think that the person will throw a fit or sulk if he doesn’t get his way, you may not have the energy to resist, or you may even be convinced that the person must want whatever you’re arguing about more badly than you do. But remind yourself that the person is using cheap tactics to get his way, and that you’re entitled to have things go your way for once.
    If the person starts to get emotional or visibly upset, slow down until the person feels more calm, but don’t just say, “Fine, fine, you can get your way, just stop crying” — this will show the person that he or she can manipulate your emotions and get you to give up what you want easily.
    Being firm means sticking to your side of the story and offering a rational, logical argument for why your idea is important. It does not mean getting aggressive or yelling or name calling. Stubborn people are already defensive, and this kind of behavior will only make them feel more threatened.

    Give them information. Stubborn people are also afraid of the unknown. They may not want to do something simply because they’ve never done it before or because they’re not used to breaking their routine. The more you can tell them about the situation, the better they will feel about it. They’ll see that the thing you’re proposing isn’t so scary because they can have a sense of what it will be like. Here are some things you can say:
    “The new sushi place has a great deal on sashimi. It’s a lot cheaper than the Italian place too. They also have an awesome big screen TV, and you can catch the end of the game while we eat.”
    “Sarah and Mike have the cutest little dog — you’ll love him. Mike is also really into craft beer and they have an awesome selection. They only live fifteen minutes away, so it won’t be a trek, either.”
    “Did you know that rent in San Francisco is on average 100% higher than the rent in Oakland? How can we afford to live there?”

    Show them why it’s important to you. If the stubborn person cares about you, then he or she will be persuaded just by hearing why the things you want would mean so much to you. This will help them see the situation on a human level, and they will see that it’s about more than about being wrong or right, but about giving you what you really want and need. If you’re in a relationship with this person, then helping them see why this would make you happy is a great move. Here are some things you can say:
    “I’ve been craving sushi for weeks. Can we please go? I can always go with Maria, but that just won’t be as fun as going with you.”
    “I’d really like to spend more time with Sarah and Mike. You know I’ve been lonely in our new neighborhood, and I’d love to have some more friends.”
    “I’d really love to live in Oakland for another year. Commuting to work is so easy for me, and I’d hate to have to wake up an hour earlier to get there.”

    Remind them that it’s your turn. If you’re used to dealing with this particular stubborn person, then chances are, you have given in again and again. It’s time to put your foot down and remind the person of all of the things you have given up for him or her, whether it’s big or small. You can do this without making them feel horrible, but you can really show them the big picture and let them see that it’s time that you got what you wanted. Here are some things you can say:
    “We’ve gone to the restaurant you’ve wanted to go to for the last five times we hung out. Can I pick, for once?”
    “We’ve hung out with your friends instead of mine for the last three weekends. Can we give my friends a chance this time?”
    “It was your idea to move to Oakland, remember? Well, now it’s my idea to stay put.”

    Negotiate or compromise. You may not be able to get what you want completely, but you may be able to get the stubborn person to meet you halfway. Compromising or negotiating with the person can help you persuade him to do what you want to do without fully giving in. If the person is truly stubborn, then baby steps may be the way to go, and you won’t be able to convince the person to follow your plan overnight. Here are some things you can say:
    “Okay, we can go to the Italian place tonight. But that means we’ll go to the sushi place tomorrow night, right?”
    “How about we meet Sarah and Mike for a drink instead of coming over to their place for dinner? We’ll still hang out with them for a bit, but it won’t take up our whole night.”
    “I’d be open to moving to Berkeley. It’s more expensive than Oakland, but not as pricey as San Francisco, and there’s always a lot going on there, too.

    Stay calm. If you really want to deal with a stubborn person and even have a chance of getting your way, then you can’t let your emotions get the best of you. If you start getting visibly upset or even angry, then the person will think that he won, because you can’t keep yourself in check. Take deep breaths, slow down, or even leave the room for a few minutes if you see yourself getting heated. The stubborn person will be much more likely to listen to you if you look calm and collected, not angry or crazed.
    It’s easy to lose your cool when you’re dealing with someone who is unwilling to do what you want or to change. But remind yourself that the more likely you are to have an outburst, the less likely the person will be to see your side of the story.

    Don’t say that they’re being stubborn. The last thing a stubborn person wants to hear is that he is stubborn. Stubborn people are defensive, and, well, stubborn, and if you even say this word around them, then they will clam up and be even less likely to change. Don’t say, “Why do you have to be so stubborn!?” or the person will stop listening to you. Resist the urge to say this word even if it’s on the tip of your tongue.

    Find common ground. Finding common ground with the person can help you persuade him to see things from your perspective. Stubborn people can feel a bit ganged up on and if you convince the person that you’re both coming from the same place, then he or she will be much more likely to listen to you then if you have wildly different opinions. Here are some things you can say:
    “I completely agree that we’ve been having productivity issues at the company. We definitely need to find a solution here. However, I do think that it has more to do with a lack of employee satisfaction than with the new projects we’ve been assigned.”
    “I agree that the people we’ve been hanging out with have all been a little weird or boring. But if we don’t give new friends a chance, we’ll never find people we really like, will we?”

    Ease them into change little by little. If you have to deal with a stubborn person in the long term, then you have to know that stubborn people don’t like to dive head first into the unknown. They like to put their toes into the water and to slowly walk forward. So, if you want to convince a person close to you to try something different, then you have to get the person used to the idea little by little until the person is fully comfortable with the situation.
    For example, if you have a slightly possessive friend who doesn’t like the new friends you made from your art class, have the person meet the friends one on one for a short amount of time instead of throwing the person into your new friend group; this will make the person more likely to be excited about the new social situation.
    If you’re trying to convince your roommate to be more clean, then ask your roommate to do the dishes every other day. After that, you can talk about taking out the trash more often, vacuuming the carpet, and so on.

    Pick your battles. This is key when dealing with stubborn people. You can get stubborn people to give in on some occasions, and with the right approach, you can even convince them to make some pretty big changes. However, if the person is truly stubborn, then it’s unlikely that he or she will give in to your demands very often. So, if you have a hard time getting a stubborn person to do what you want, then you should only ask about the things you really care about.
    Maybe you don’t really care about picking the movie on date night; but you may, however, care about where you go on your spring break trip. Save up for that.

    Break the pattern of always giving in. A stubborn person may continue to get his or her way around you because you always end up giving in. If you never say no, then why would the person want to change for you? So, the next time you’re negotiating something, even if it’s as simple as what movie to see, say that you’re going to go on your own or go home if you don’t get your way. This will surprise the stubborn person so much that he or she will either give in or will start to think of you as a person who can’t be easily manipulated.
    If you don’t give in easily, the stubborn person will actually respect you more and will be more likely to value your opinion.

    Don’t beg or sound desperate. This is not a good way to get the person to come around to your point of view, no matter how badly you want things to go your way. If you feel that you’ve exhausted all of your resources and options, then just walk away. There’s no use in degrading yourself by begging and whining, and this will not only not work with a truly stubborn person, but it will be a little humiliating for you.
    If you want to convince a stubborn person to do something, you have to take the rational approach. The emotional approach will only make the person even less likely to agree with you.

    Be patient. It takes time to truly persuade a stubborn person, especially if you’re trying to break a stubborn pattern of behavior. It won’t happen overnight, and you have to remind yourself that you’ll have to start with the small stuff (what to watch on TV) before you can to move to the bigger issues (where to move). Tell yourself that you can change the person little by little, but that you won’t be able to make him or her someone completely new.
    Maintain your confidence. Confidence is key when you’re dealing with stubborn people. If you waver or show some doubt in your own ideas, then the person will respect you less and will be even less likely to listen to you. You have to act like your idea or perspective is the best idea ever (without being arrogant, of course), and the person will be more likely to think you know your stuff. Don’t let the person intimidate you into backing down or saying that maybe your own idea isn’t so great.
    Keep your head up, maintain eye contact, and don’t let the person make you hunch over or look at the floor when you’re talking. Maintaining a confident posture can go a long way in making your ideas sound confident.
    If you’re nervous about what you have to propose, practice it in advance. This will make you sound more confident about your ideas when the time comes.

    Know when to give up. Unfortunately, you may try everything when you’re dealing with the stubborn person and may get absolutely no results. If the stubborn person isn’t budging an inch, listening to you at all, or willing to accept another perspective though you’ve tried providing more information, flattering him, being firm, and showing how much the decision would mean to you, then it may be time to walk away. If you can’t do any good, then you may only be doing harm, and it’s better to leave the situation if you know it’s not going anywhere.
    If you keep trying to make a stubborn person see your point of view to no avail at all, then you may end up being the stubborn one.
    Giving up on a stubborn person doesn’t mean you’re weak. It just means that you have been rational and know when there’s nothing else that can be done.
    I do not agree with all of it but by following the majority of it there is a lot less needless drama in my life and my life is a lot more peaceful.
    Jehovah bless you to utilize them to your good.

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