The Company You Keep

Just now, I wrote a lengthy post and then realized that I didn’t care for it, so I deleted it. The interesting thing about this blogging process is deciding what is meant to be shared publicly, and what is simply meant for one’s own growth. I realized that what I had written was the latter, rather than the former, and decided to start afresh.

I might have shared this image before, but this verse really resonated with me today. After all, the people with whom we spend time really help to shape our character, and help us to make healthy and wise choices in our lives.


I love this verse mostly because there is so much truth in it – we so often become like the people with whom we spend the most time, no?

I am grateful because I have been blessed with some remarkably wise and discerning friends and family members. While we all have our blind spots – after all, who doesn’t? – on the whole, the people who are in my life at present are on the path to greater wisdom and maturity, and there has been much that I have learned from them.

However, this has not always been the case.

I can think back to a recent time when I allowed a certain person into my life who ended up being unwise and unreliable. Oh, how I needlessly exposed myself to harm and disappointment by simply allowing this individual into my life! Through some painful circumstances, the true character of this individual (or lack thereof, if I’m honest) was revealed, and the connection that we had – tenuous though it was – faded away.

Of course, I grieved this loss at the time because I thought that there was more to it than there actually was. In hindsight – and with the benefit of time, healing, wise friends, and greater discernment on my part – I now recognize a very obvious truth now: This peson had no business being in my life to begin with! The most unwise person in the friendship (if I can even call it that) was me! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

And so we we learn. This passage from Proverbs 13 has become one of my life verses, because I can testify from personal experience that the company you keep often dictates the quality of the relationships that you enjoy (or struggle through) in other areas. By the grace of God, I am making better choices now, and I absolutely treasure the trusted friends and family members who are part of my life now.

What about you?

Dear God, I thank You for delivering me from the unhealthy friendship that I was in earlier, and for now surrounding me with like-minded, growth-oriented people who genuinely care about me and are on the path to wholeness themselves. Continue to develop in me a wise and discerning spirit, so that I can be quick to spot the unwise and undiscerning and them pass me by! Life is too short to waste it with such short-sighted individuals (after all, what did You say about not casting our pearls before swine?). Also, help me to be a good and wise friend to others – to focus on giving, rather than taking; and loving, rather than tearing people down. In Your name I pray, Amen.

9 thoughts on “The Company You Keep

  1. This post really resonates with me as I’ve made a few mistakes along the way when it comes to friendships. I am extremely trusting and tend to see the good in everyone but I am now learning to guard my heart and stick close to the ones I know God has placed in my life.
    Thank you for sharing.
    Hayley ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•

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    1. Hayley, I can relate to what you are saying 100%. it’s a tough lesson to learn – often repeatedly – and a rough/disappointing road to travel down, too.

      Wisdom is the way! With each painful situation, we learn, grow, and make better choices.

      Thank you for sharing, too! Blessings to you. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. We’re smiling right now at how you opened your post because we can relate. Isn’t it great when those moments strike resulting in a pause that latter we’re thankful for. So true how some moments are really our introspection and to others may cause them to squint. The verse you cite is so true and one that we could have benefitted from had we acted upon it when younger, lol.

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    1. Amen! I totally agree, and could have saved myself a lot of heartache and pain had I walked with wiser people (and had been wiser myself) back in the day!

      This blogging journey is quite something, no? You start writing and think, “This is it!” Only to realize later that no, that “it” was just meant for your eyes only, and wasn’t meant to be shared. Painful though it was to hit select-all and delete, it was what needed to happen ๐Ÿ™‚ Glad you two can relate!

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