Just now, I wrote a lengthy post and then realized that I didn’t care for it, so I deleted it. The interesting thing about this blogging process is deciding what is meant to be shared publicly, and what is simply meant for one’s own growth. I realized that what I had written was the latter, rather than the former, and decided to start afresh.
I might have shared this image before, but this verse really resonated with me today. After all, the people with whom we spend time really help to shape our character, and help us to make healthy and wise choices in our lives.
I love this verse mostly because there is so much truth in it – we so often become like the people with whom we spend the most time, no?
I am grateful because I have been blessed with some remarkably wise and discerning friends and family members. While we all have our blind spots – after all, who doesn’t? – on the whole, the people who are in my life at present are on the path to greater wisdom and maturity, and there has been much that I have learned from them.
However, this has not always been the case.
I can think back to a recent time when I allowed a certain person into my life who ended up being unwise and unreliable. Oh, how I needlessly exposed myself to harm and disappointment by simply allowing this individual into my life! Through some painful circumstances, the true character of this individual (or lack thereof, if I’m honest) was revealed, and the connection that we had – tenuous though it was – faded away.
Of course, I grieved this loss at the time because I thought that there was more to it than there actually was. In hindsight – and with the benefit of time, healing, wise friends, and greater discernment on my part – I now recognize a very obvious truth now: This peson had no business being in my life to begin with! The most unwise person in the friendship (if I can even call it that) was me! 😮
And so we we learn. This passage from Proverbs 13 has become one of my life verses, because I can testify from personal experience that the company you keep often dictates the quality of the relationships that you enjoy (or struggle through) in other areas. By the grace of God, I am making better choices now, and I absolutely treasure the trusted friends and family members who are part of my life now.
What about you?
Dear God, I thank You for delivering me from the unhealthy friendship that I was in earlier, and for now surrounding me with like-minded, growth-oriented people who genuinely care about me and are on the path to wholeness themselves. Continue to develop in me a wise and discerning spirit, so that I can be quick to spot the unwise and undiscerning and them pass me by! Life is too short to waste it with such short-sighted individuals (after all, what did You say about not casting our pearls before swine?). Also, help me to be a good and wise friend to others – to focus on giving, rather than taking; and loving, rather than tearing people down. In Your name I pray, Amen.